- Mr. Glorious
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So, I encourage everyone who visits the Glorious Solutions Centre to visit this room; whether you are sharing a problem or providing a solution, you are always welcome to the Sharing Room.
Today, I launch this room with an email I just received from a very troubled person. He needs our help urgently, so I encourage you, please don’t just read/hear about the problem. Join in the comments as we seek to provide a workable and practicable solution. Many thanks. Here we go:
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Subject: I NEED HELP!!!
Dear Glorious,
Thank you for all the wonderful posts you’ve been making on your website. I have indeed been blessed. The post about Bill Gate being a school-drop cut straight to my situation. So, I would like to go straight to my point. I am an undergraduate student in one of the universities in South-South Nigeria. Before I came into school, I had a dream to become an architect. I have always been fascinated by wonderful architectural designs and edifice and dreamt that one day, the world will refer to me as the best in that field. And so, I wanted to study Architecture in the university, but my parents would hear nothing of the sort. They wanted me to study Petroleum Engineering because they felt that it was more rewarding and of course, a very hotjob in Nigeria. I tried to get them to reason with me but they were adamant about their decision and went to every length to ensure that even my JAMB form was filled as they required. Well, I had to go along with their decision since, “he who pays the piper, detects the tune”. Right now, I am in 400 level BUT I’m doing poorly academically, not because I am not intelligent or don’t read enough, but because I don’t have any interest in the course and I feel as though I’m wasting my time in school. This has been the state of my mind since my very first year. As it stands now, I’m going to have an extra year but i don’t feel bothered about it, rather I’m angry about not pursueing my dream. I feel like quitting and changing direction so I can study what i’ve always dreamt of. BUT MY PARENTS WILL HEAR NONE OF IT, and even insist that after I am through, I will still further my education in the same Petroleum direction.
Pleaasseeeeeee, I feel stuck here. I attend classes and don’t feel any passion about what I am being taught anymore. My whole life, my thoughts, my actions are geared towards pursuing my real dream. The vision of who I want to be is so clear before me but how else can I communicate this to my parents? Please, I seriously need help. I don’t know what to do.
Thank you for your prompt response.
John
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Try to earn a good grade, then follow your dream.
Hello John,
Reading this sends a kind of feeling thru me, as i see someone who is not living his dream but the dream of others, not by choice though but by circumstance.
I read petroleum Eng. but don’t know were my certificate is, the moderator of this blog read the same course, but we can tell u were our passion lies. I am not a fan of Fela, but one thing I liked about him was that he knew what he wanted, and after pursuing the course of his parents also went for his passion, music.
The way you sound, you are trapped inside, I suggest you look for a family member or relation who is well informed about what is at stake to help you talk to you parents, it is not too late to start all over and since u are ready to pay the price, rather than going on with something that you know you don’t have a passion 4.
I know it is not as easy as it seems, but God will grant you wisdom.
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It’s the problem of going to school when you are under your parents. So face it. Finish your course, get a paying job, get independent, do whatever in the world that you wish.
Getting independent is the word, whatever legal way that pay can come, so that you can live your life for you.
For those wanting to go into music, parents understand that this is an unstable water. Today o, not necessarily the best musicians top the chart, you need to get a good record company, and promote heavily. The latter two may not be things that are in your hands to do. It’s like dreaming of becoming a footballer, injuries could end your dream anyday. For parents, being a son means taking care of them when they retire. That’s what they look ahead to. When it is in their power to direct your career to fulfill their dream (and your role), they boldly do it. Some parents with the benefit of hindsight, know the reality in life that not all passion is worth pursuing. It’s give and take.
For you, my friend John, fulfill your obligations, then follow your dreams.
Sorry anyway for your pain.
My dear John, it is a pity that you could not get your parents do the right thing – allow you make your choice. However, don’t continue in self pity. Your future is still bright. There are many in that profession you don’t like. It is your perception that makes you feel the way you are feeling. So, accept what has happened, change your attitude towards your present course – give it a positive perception.
Do not make anything a do or die affair in life. Perhaps the only thing worth that in life is that which has to do with eternity – your relationship with God your maker and the Saviour – Jesus Christ.
Go back to your lectures with a positive attitude, make good grades and graduate. Work and make your money. Then go back and do the course you wish to do if it will still be worth the trouble.
For now, accept the condition you have found yourself, pray for God’s help. YOU CAN MAKE IT.
hello friend,
it is not unusual that your passion is not your course. but you can still trace your way to your longings.
i believe you need to discover the root for your motivation.
let me explain. “what is the root of ur motivation to study architecture…is it money, prestige etc?”. if it can still find expression in your course, then i will tell you to change your attitude.
your attitude is the most important factor to your success.you need to create a positive feeling about what you are doing now.
remember, the story of the servants with the talents.I WILL ADVISE THAT YOU GIVE UR BEST ATTITUDE TO THIS “LITTLE”then you can have what you deserve
to be frank with you, you can trace to your passion even now.
i wish u da best
John, its kinda sad that ur goin thru this but the truth is, if ur not passionate
abt something then dont go for it,wats d point in being at uni and failing becuz ur
being forced to do something u dont want to do. i’d say stand up for yourself, they are
your parents i know but at the end of the day its your future not theirs, u’ll be
the one working not them.parents need to stop feeding their own personal dreams into
their children like they have no self will.John, i’m sure your parents pay for your
education and as it is in Nigeria, its kinda hard to be in school and sponsor urself.
however, if its a situation where if u change courses ur parents wont support you
then try to save up some money now or come up with some way of generating income for
yourself so you can do your dream course. keep talking to your parents till they get
tired of hearing it they change their mind..until you take a drastic step to save
your future,ur parents may never listen to what you have to say.ITS YOUR FUTURE,
YOUR LIFE.